DEATH: (A Love Story) - Please Allow Me To Introduce Myself

PLEASE ALLOW ME TO INTRODUCE MYSELF

 Hi, I am your Death and I am here for you.

No wait, don’t go!

Aside from the fact that you can’t get away, I’m not here for you in that way, at least not now, although to be honest with you we do have a date and I am always with you whether you acknowledge me or not.

Want to know when I am coming in that way?

Sorry, I can’t tell you. It’s part of the Great Mystery. You know. That place where

you came from and where you are going.

If you want to know the truth I'm not your death, but you are mine. Now don't freak out on me. It's only a visit. I want to spend some quality time with you before the big event and seeing as you took the time to stop by and I have you as a captive audience I thought it would be nice to have a little visit and get acquainted.

Sorry, if we got off on the wrong foot, but that happens more often than not, so let’s give it another try.

Pleased to meet you. Hope you guess my name, but what’s puzzling you is the nature of my game. No, I’m not who you think from that song – well maybe I am. In truth I have many names and many faces. I’m formally introducing myself to you this way, but I’m really just messing with you, hoping that maybe you will lighten up and think of me a little differently. Who knows? You just might learn something.

We are far more intimate than most people care to admit. Whoever came up with the expression love it to death was a lot closer to the truth than those other idiotic sayings you have about me. Not only am I always with you, but my love for you is unconditional, all consuming, and infinite from your limited perspective. With a love like that you’d think that my feelings would be hurt by the way you portray me, but one of the benefits of being omnipotent and omniscient is that I am beyond those infantile emotions, and if I were affected by them my love for you wouldn’t be unconditional, would it?

Yes, I admit to being a know-it-all. That is the definition of omniscient, so forgive me if I go a little overboard at times. It’s not my ego, it’s just that I sometimes forget myself. I have access to everything there is to know about you, and everyone else for that matter.

I have friends in more places than you can imagine and my eyes and ears are everywhere including all knowledge in each and every molecule and cell of your neurons, dendrites, mitochondria, organs, and anything else you can imagine. Yes, sometimes I get a little too technical and scientific at times, but every thought, emotion, and the collective knowledge of anything humanity has ever thought, imagined, or experienced is at my disposal.

There are no secrets from me.

I’m here to tell you stories and share some science, history, and myths, all of which are your creations that I want to enlighten you with  to help you understand me more. You have seen me as Satan, Anubis, Mot, Thanatos, God, the Devil, loving, punitive, dark, light – the list goes on and on!

It is my sincerest hope that our friendly reintroduction here will change the way you think of me, and maybe in some small way reflect the depth of the love I have for you.

One of the most enduring ways you depict me is as the Grim Reaper, a skeleton wearing a shroud holding a scythe who comes to collect you. Yes, there is some truth to that and many of your stories are about people trying to trick, bribe, or avoid me and hold on to the psychopomp who escorts newly deceased souls into the afterlife. When you portray me this way I’m pretty scary looking. No wonder so many people are terrified of me!

Sometimes you think of me as male and other times you think of me as female, but I am far beyond any definition as simplistic as that.

Aside from the Grim Reaper, which you have to admit, is not very flattering, can you honestly tell me what is grim about a homecoming? After all, everyone is more than welcome in my domain which is actually your real home.

Mi casa es su casa.

I suggest you enjoy the short visit of your life because when I come for you, you will realize just how short it really is.

You could even die reading this book.

As I mentioned, I have many names and many faces. In the most basic sense, most people know me as Death, which comes from an old English word dēap, which comes from the old Germanic daupuz, which comes from an Indo-European root that means the process, act, or condition of dying, but I go infinitely further back than that!

Over time, the idea and the signs of my coming have generated a number of euphemisms. When I come for someone, you may say that they have passed away, passed on, expired, or are gone. The dead person becomes a corpse, a body, remains, or a cadaver. I kind of like that last one. Abra Cadaver! Now you see them, now you don’t.

Carrion and carcass are also used mostly when talking about animals, and when all of your flesh has rotted away you become skeletons. In the spirit of politeness, people now like to say deceased, and the dead person is referred to as the decedent while the ashes left after a cremation are sometimes called cremains, a clever combination of the words cremation and remains.

Other than this very decidedly special blessing of a visit with you now, from a scientific point of view my mostly once in a lifetime visit can best be defined as the ending of all biological functions that keep a living organism going. I have many ways to do that depending on how you have lived, where you lived, what your parents did, and lots of other things that come into play that affect our fast approaching, intimate meeting.

There are innumerable variations on how I come for you. If you are good, I might let you enjoy the gift of life for longer and let you die of old age, but this can sometimes be slow and painful. Other times I can be fast and terrifying, like when a predatory wild animal decides it wants to act as one of my agents and send you to me as a gift. You can see this instinct in house cats when they bring you an eviscerated bird, mouse, or lizard as a gift. You should be flattered by that because they are giving you the same respect they have for me.

There are many other ways that I come that keep me busy, which is another reason why you should be grateful that I am spending this special time with you right now, although truth be told, I exist far outside the limitations of space and time as you know them.

I’ve always found it fascinating that like the loyal cat that brings you corpses as gifts, you unwittingly and sometimes purposefully do the same with me like you are my loyal pets. I have to admit to having a special place in my heart for cults, serial killers, war mongers, and other misfits who aid me in my work. No disrespect intended here, but I am flattered by the dedication and service of these seemingly misguided souls.

I understand that you don’t always get credit in the case of disease, malnutrition, starvation, and dehydration. Sometimes the weather and other natural forces help make this happen, but sometimes, especially in modern times, you assist them with the way you treat your environment, or from your greed when you hoard resources at the expense of others.

I am grateful for your contributions both direct and indirect that help bring so many of my loved ones home to me. Without sounding insensitive to those left behind, I find the self service of suicide particularly charming and a sign of your undying love for me.

It’s a paradox, isn’t it? Undying love for Death. It sounds kind of eternal, doesn’t it? I’m full of what looks like paradoxes and contradictions, but it’s all part of the Great Mystery that you’re not quite ready to understand yet.

Aside from those who prefer the self service personal introduction to me there is intentional homicide where you help me directly like a midwife into my reality, and then there are the times you help me without realizing it with accidents and traumas from terminal injuries. Sometimes I’m a little embarrassed and overwhelmed by your generosity when it comes to wars, bombings, and mass murders. Even though I don’t need your help, among all the living beings in the world you serve me more than any of the others by killing yourselves and everything around you more than all of them combined.

While we are spending this special moment together I want you to know that I understand why you are terrified of me. Given the circumstances, I forgive you for the way you think of and describe me in light of the fact that in most cases the bodies of the formerly living decompose soon after I take them, which I admit is not a pretty sight, not to mention the smell, but maybe it can bring you some small comfort in the fact that what you see as an unsightly stinking mess gives life to my loyal insect, vermin, and other carrion eating clean up crews who help you become food for the plants. Your remains might even contribute to the radiant beauty of a blossoming flower!

I also realize that from your side of things my visit can be sad and unpleasant because of your love for those who leave you to come back to me, and because I am one of the best known faces of the Great Mystery, you know little of me, which is the reason I have come to visit with you now. Most of you fear the dark and what you don’t know, and my visits bring emotional pain, melancholy, and longing, but on the bright side I also engender sympathy and compassion.

I feel compelled to tell you that many of you think there is an afterlife and believe that there is a reward, judgment, and punishment for past sins. Suffice it to say that you will discover the real truth of that when I come to take you home.

Although your thoughts, fears, perceptions, and denials of me are unwarranted, when you see them from the bigger picture that I represent, I assure you there is no judgment on my part for how you think and feel about me. I also want to point out that like the sympathy and compassion I inspire when I check in from time to time, and sometimes when I come, I change my mind to keep things interesting, and end up changing lives for the better.

Grim Reaper?

Huh!

If I do decide to let you stick around and enjoy the gifts and the life that I have loaned you for a longer time, it only means that I am coming for you in increments, sometimes just a few cells at a time, but as I mentioned my love for you is all consuming and our final meeting is inevitable, so rest assured, I am still coming, or maybe it sounds better to say waiting. Regardless of how you think about it, I am always here for you, and will come whenever I choose.

If you live a long life and manage to survive all the calamities that three dimensional existence has to offer, old age will wear you down and bring you to me. The aging process comes from the deterioration of cellular activity and the destruction of regular cell functions, meaning yes, I am everywhere and in all things big and small. This gradual deterioration and mortality means that cells are naturally sentenced to stable and long term loss of life in spite of their continuing metabolic reactions and viability.

To put things in perspective and give you a sense of how generous I am, how hard I work, and of how busy I am, roughly one-hundred-fifty-thousand people join me from around the world every day, and of those two thirds come to me through the gradual process of old age. Think about how much you contribute to the other third who come home to me through unnatural man made causes.

Who’s the Grim Reaper now?

I understand how confusing it is for you to comprehend what I really am, what I really do, and what I represent. After all it is a Great Mystery that you only get a fleeting glimpse of as infinity, and even that falls short. It’s one of the reasons I came to visit you now. It’s my sincere hope that you come to understand me more. Even though I am admittedly incomprehensible, I am also inevitable, so whether you like it or not, in spite of the fact that you do everything to avoid and try to outwit me, at some point you have to accept me, even if I take you kicking and screaming. I would much rather have you embrace me with the Love I have for you when I finally welcome you home because in the end you have no choice but to admit; you are mine.

You have studied all of the ways I can take you and searched the signs of my visits in futile attempts to look for ways out, but you must realize now that I am a process, meaning I am perpetually ongoing instead of a one time event the way you are used to seeing and thinking of me as. With the advancement of your science and technology many of my entry points are now reversible, which I find amusing, but patience is a virtue, isn’t it? I have all the time in the world and I will always prevail in the end.

Your inquiries and your divide and conquer approach to understand me have only confused things more by blurring the dividing line between living and joining me in my realm, and it depends on factors beyond the presence or absence of your vital signs. In your modern day and age clinical death is not necessary or adequate for a determination of legal death. If you have a working heart and lungs, but are considered brain dead, then you can be declared legally dead without clinical death.

Who’s really calling the shots here, Clinical Doctor Death, Death, Attorney at Law, or Brain Stealing Death?

Of course the answer is always Yours Truly no matter how anyone tries to define me.

You now have many scientific definitions to try and understand me like brain death, which defines my arrival as the point in time when brain activity ceases, respiratory arrest, when breathing stops, and cardiac arrest, when your heart stops. These are followed by what sounds like partners in an otherworldly family law firm; pallor mortis, the paleness that comes fifteen to twenty minutes after I have come and gone, livor mortis, the settling of blood in the lower part of the body, algor mortis, the reduction in body temperature following my visit, and the well known rigor mortis, where the limbs become stiff, and of course at the end of it all there is always decomposition.

All of these definitions highlight one of the challenges in trying to define me, which is distinguishing me from life, the gift that I bless you with. If you look at my arrival as a point in time, then I am the moment when your life ends, but determining when I have come is difficult as the cessation of your life functions don’t often happen at the same time across all of your organ systems.

A popular conception which I have an affinity for is to define life as consciousness. When consciousness ceases a living organism can be said to have died, but even this notion is ambiguous in that the concept of consciousness has different definitions given by scientists, psychologists, and philosophers, not to mention all the religious traditions that believe my arrival doesn't signal the ending of consciousness. In many cultures I am thought of as more of a process than a single event that implies a transition from one spiritual state to another.

Does consciousness survive when I come and take you?

Well…

Sorry, as much as I’d like to tell you, that is part of the Great Mystery, but if it is any consolation, I am always here for you.

Waiting.

Amidst all this confusion about when and how I might come and go, many have been confounded or in many cases have taken things into their own hands and wittingly or unwittingly worked for me by becoming my agents and collaborators. I have to admit that no matter which way it turns out, I am indifferent to the outcome because I know that I always prevail in the end.

Throughout history many people have been buried alive either by accident, misdiagnosis, or intentionally as forms of torture, murder, or execution. Sometimes it happens with the consent of the victim as part of a stunt with the intention of escaping. Premature burials are invitations for me to visit through suffocation, dehydration, starvation, or hypothermia if it happens somewhere cold.

Many recorded cases of accidental burial go back to the fourteenth century when after reopening his tomb, the philosopher John Duns Scotus was reportedly found outside his coffin with his hands torn and bloody after attempting to escape me. Alice Blunden of Basingstoke was said to have been buried alive twice back in sixteen-seventy-four. These are just recorded instances, but these accidents go much further back than that.

Revivals of corpses have been triggered by dropped coffins, grave robbers, embalming, and attempted dissections. Many people think that reports of live burial are overestimated. The normal physical effects of decomposition are often misinterpreted as signs that the exhumed person had revived in their coffin. Reports are ongoing of people accidentally being sent to the morgue trapped in steel boxes after being declared dead. When a gentleman named Robert Robinson died in Manchester England in seventeen-ninety-one a movable glass pane was inserted into his coffin and the mausoleum had a door for purposes of inspection by a watchman to see if he breathed on the glass. He instructed relatives to visit his grave periodically to check that he had actually left with me.

In eighteen-eighty-two safety coffins were devised to prevent premature burial, but none of them worked and in eighteen-ninety a family designed and built a burial vault with an internal hatch to allow the victim of a premature burial to escape. The London Association for the Prevention of Premature Burial was formed in eighteen-ninety-six.

I found all these antics and the lengths that people went through to avoid meeting me a source of great entertainment. All of these accidents and misdiagnosed burials have contributed to the legions of vampire and zombie mythologies which I find even funnier.

Undead? Seriously? Talk about